the strange thing about adults

hardshell: check this out
hardshell: “SINGAPORE: 39,490 babies were born in Singapore last year, but not all were born of Singaporean parents. In fact, only 59 per cent of them have both a Singaporean mother and a Singaporean father.”
E.Z: oh!!!! And the rest?!
hardshell: “6,071 babies were born to Singapore fathers whose wives are Malaysians, Indonesians, Chinese nationals, or are from other countries in the region.”
hardshell: “A woman puts a lot of effort, time, overtime, into her work in her early 20s, mid—late 20s, then she gets to be about 30 years old and then she is thinking about marriage but it’s hard for her to find someone (at that age). The older you get, the more entrenched you get in your lifestyle... and it gets harder to adapt to another person.” ~ CNA
E.Z: that's true… very true
hardshell: yea... I agree too cos when you’re older you’ve come to know what you like and dislike and somehow you become very stubborn with your views. That openness... just closes in on you.
hardshell: that spirit of openness I mean
E.Z: ya… it's always easier to change when you're young
hardshell: uhuh… I mean it's so strange... all the while when we're at work, brainstorming etc we're 'open', receptive to ideas yet the same does not apply to personal matters
hardshell: it's really about being entrenched in your comfort zone

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"The older you get, the more entrenched you get in your lifestyle... and it gets harder to adapt to another person."

I guess people should take comfort that it's not impossible - it's just harder... what with the expectations people grow with and have. A few words came to mind the minute I read that... "Understanding. Trust. Love". But time is the essence. You can never rush the commitment to understand, trust and love.

It's all a challenge, especially in an age where people are getting so complicated and everyone else is setting up invisible barriers to protect themselves from others whom they suspect may be harbouring hidden agendas.

That's another strange but sad thing cos it goes to show just how much our ability to trust, love and be loved, erode along with age.